I have been spending my Friday night...not partying, not going to fellowship, but chatting with friends. And not just any friends, but friends in HK. I have been enjoying the convenience with my ip phone on my computer. It's been awesome to be able to connect with the old schoolmates. The most exciting thing is that there are so many commonality between us that's just simply wonderful. Some I have not been keep in touch for 10+ years, but that doesn't prevent us from renewing a friendship.
I find it time is best used when I can chat with the people I like to get connected with. In the past, I usually would go to fellowships at churches and spent a lot of time with the people there. But I have not been doing that for a while unless there is special program. I find it quite a waste of time when all they do is joking around and speaking non-sense, while don't have any real purpose in meeting up. So there are bible studies, but people usually are quite close up and unwilling to share Maybe this is the chinese culture. I think some people find it really enjoyable just be able to speak cantonese on a Friday night. Therfore speaking non-sense is ok. It's hard for me to see the same bunch of people week after week and then after 2 years you realize you don't know them well at all. It seems like people are either too close up, or they already have their own bunch of good friends and all the other people are just 'friends' who are secondary in nature. I don't know if this is a common problem among chinese churches in bay-area, but this is my own experiences so far. I can only pray for the situation to get better.
On the other hand, it has been wonderful to be able to spend more time with parents and sister. A mere 20 minutes drive will get me to their place. I really treasure the time spent with the close ones more than anything.