Tonight I went to a smallgroup gathering for newcomers to the church I am currently attending. I had a good time fellowshipping and mingling with a bunch of new friends. We had smallgroup discussion time and we talked about methods to build authentic friendships in the bay-area. We realized that it is very hard to archieve. Many people pointed out that because people are so busy they don't have time to build authentic friendships.
I must agree to a certain extent, but I can see that there are bigger pictures. In general, I found that people in the bay-area don't really want to get too deep in a friendship. Or, they do not know how to. Why do I say this? Many people living in the bay-area are high-tech professionals who work at large corporations, and most graduated from prestigious universities. Many of them are very smart since they're little. And many have nothing but studying and books surrounded them the whole life. When you concentrate on one thing, you lose another. Studying a lot means there is less time socializing with people and making friends. This can be voluntary (prefer studying) or involuntary (parents not allowing any distraction from studying). This applies to the adult lives. Sometimes I think being busy at work is just an excuse to hide the social incapabilities.
I think everyone wants to build authentic relationships. But sometimes it is frustrating when people don't know how to. Sometimes people are too proud to accept others' suggestions, or simple can't see the real issue. The reason I bring this up is for my readers, whether you live in bay-area or not, to think about what yourself can change to build better friendships with others. I think we all have a lot to learn and to improve socially!
A friend came over on Saturday and we had a wonderful jam session. He is expert in guitar and he randomly played a few tunes. I just follow along on my drums and we had a blast. We did a few songs like 'Masquerade', 'Lovin' You' and a few mandarin pop tunes. We converted everything into rock version and it was truly fun. Now I am trying to get more irregular patterns with the bass and more creative fillers :) I just love playing drums. It is a lot of fun plus it gives me energy. I should start comparing myself with the likes of Yoshiki , wahahahaha!
Saturday night I went to a piano & violin duo concert in Palo Alto. The program includes works from Bartok and John William's Schindler's List. Encores include hymn 'Give Thanks' and a Chinese tune. All in all a lot of varieties and an enjoyable evening.
I realized that a lot of things in life, I have a lot of control over. The differences with the outcome is the attitude you put into the task itself. With a good attitude and positive outlook, nothing is too hard. Nothing is impossible.
Nintendo DS currently all sold out in Japan (notice those are empty boxes in the picture). 2nd hand ones are selling with a higher price tag. This handheld gaming device is so popular thanks to the innovative games it provides, with the dual screen and touch screen features. On the contrary, here in the states NDS can be seen everywhere. No one seem to care too much about the DS when the XBox 360 is the king of console - for now until the arrival of PS3. Not sure about HK's situation, but I guess it should be similar to Japan. I am still thinking about picking up the Mario Kart DS bundle and do some WIFI battle, but I really don't have time to play... T_T not even on my PSP...
First of all I would like to say happy birthday to my sister as today is her birthday! We went to have Japanese food at San Jose Japantown and my stomach is now stuffed with beef teriyaki, ton katsu, tofu, scallop...
A few new and not-too-new japanese dramas to recommend. The reason I watch those not-too-new ones is because those dramas are usually very good, so I don't mind watching them even when they're a few months old.
西遊記journey to the west - Currently the highest rating and most anticipated j-drama on air in Japan. A remake of the famous chinese folk tale. Features two handsome guys from SMAP, lead actor from hit drama Densha Otoko, and lead actress from drama Slow Dance. I just started watching and it is a very lively and funny drama. A little silly, but if you want to get a good laugh and seeing some of the most famous actors and actresses in Japan you got to check this out.
白夜行byakuyakou - A unique love story about two teenagers who try to cover up their murdering of their own parents, being chased by a smart detective, and a relationship that cannot be found out by others. Very serious tone but very unique and excellent storyline. Many staff for this drama are from the 2005 drama of the year 'Shouting Love in the Middle of the World'. Even the singer for the theme song is the same! Again music is handled by Hikaru Utada's music director. So you can expect some very good drama music.
我Miss係大佬gokuzen - Starring the very talented and beautiful actress Nakama Yukie (who was this year's Kohaku red-white show mc), this is about Yukie as a hot-blooded highschool teacher who got assigned to a bunch of troubled students and how Yukie influenced them with values and becoming friends with them. Adding more 'spice' to the mix is that Yukie has a background of being the decendent of a gangster group. And she possess excellent martial art skills.
危險姐姐kiken na aneki - I am almost finishing this one. A story about a big sister who is tall and pretty but has no brain, and a little brother who is smart and not very sociable to people. Their father died recently and the two siblings want to revive father's sake business. During the process they encountered many incidents, met many people and learn life lessons that make them closer to one another.
Recently I have spotted a few vehicles on the road whose drivers forgot to turn on their headlights during the night time. Several times, I flashed my lights several times to remind them. It is quite dangerous to drive without their headlights on because other drivers cannot see them and accidents will happen.
For anyone who drives, please please remember to turn on your headlights during night-time. Save your life, and save others.
I have been spending my Friday night...not partying, not going to fellowship, but chatting with friends. And not just any friends, but friends in HK. I have been enjoying the convenience with my ip phone on my computer. It's been awesome to be able to connect with the old schoolmates. The most exciting thing is that there are so many commonality between us that's just simply wonderful. Some I have not been keep in touch for 10+ years, but that doesn't prevent us from renewing a friendship.
I find it time is best used when I can chat with the people I like to get connected with. In the past, I usually would go to fellowships at churches and spent a lot of time with the people there. But I have not been doing that for a while unless there is special program. I find it quite a waste of time when all they do is joking around and speaking non-sense, while don't have any real purpose in meeting up. So there are bible studies, but people usually are quite close up and unwilling to share Maybe this is the chinese culture. I think some people find it really enjoyable just be able to speak cantonese on a Friday night. Therfore speaking non-sense is ok. It's hard for me to see the same bunch of people week after week and then after 2 years you realize you don't know them well at all. It seems like people are either too close up, or they already have their own bunch of good friends and all the other people are just 'friends' who are secondary in nature. I don't know if this is a common problem among chinese churches in bay-area, but this is my own experiences so far. I can only pray for the situation to get better.
On the other hand, it has been wonderful to be able to spend more time with parents and sister. A mere 20 minutes drive will get me to their place. I really treasure the time spent with the close ones more than anything.